More on Compassionate Maai.....

Hi there,

Here at Fierce HQ Neil and I have been working hard on our latest article submissions. Following on from Neil's post below on compassionate maai we've been developing this idea further.

For instance maai has three levels, each dependent on a specific phase of martial relating (Habersetzer, 1975): to-ma when the other is practically out of reach; uchi-ma when two practitioners are at the boundaries of their respective room to manoeuvre; and chika-ma when they are close to each other, at arms reach, and do not need to step forward to touch. Within competitive combat styles such as Karate there can be a pre-exchange period when opponents are attempting to seize the distancing capacity of the other, looking for moments to create openings and explore his or her balance and skill (Masciotra, et al., 2001). It is this interplay of safely manoeuvring that we would wish to encourage as part of compassionate maai in FCMA.

Similarly Okumura, et al. (2012) in exploring critical interpersonal distance switches in Kendo matches note that the most preferred distance enables players to execute both striking and defensive movements immediately. In combat sports and martial arts more generally then, the task of maai might be to afford what are termed ‘anti-phase’ synchronizations at near distances to maintain safe distances from opponents. However, in the pro-social/compassionate version of maai we're proposing in light of the pandemic our goal is to maintain ‘pro-phase’ synchronizations which seek to enhance the timing and rhythm between two or more people.

Interestingly, entraining such skill is often seen as Masters and higher graded martial arts demonstrate and enact ‘positive’ maai skills to and with lower graded practitioners/students as part of their development. We often liken this to the notion that to skilfully ‘break’ rhythm one must first understand and master it (Lee, 1975).

Rather than emulate the abrupt phase-transition phenomenon noted in skilful practitioners in competitive arenas and situations of threat, we are instead seeking to foster smooth phase-transitions to afford a sense of ongoing relatedness and reaffiliation with others during this time of crisis to convey overall social safeness (Gilbert, et al., 2007).

While the behavioural dynamics underlying the process of martial arts movement and perception are likely linked by visual information, and visual feedback is commonly employed in successful interpersonal competitive tasks (Okumura, et al. 2012), developing compassionate maai will also require attention to and a focus upon specific and well understood forms of social signalling. For example, Porges’ (2003) work on social engagement and attachment shows that the muscles of the face and head influence one’s expression and reception of social cues, which in turn affect the experience of social distance. In terms of behaviour this is seen in facial expressions, vocalisations, head orientation, eye gaze and listening. Eye contact, socially contingent (responsive) facial expressions, appropriate vocal prosody and actively listenting harder all therefore go a considerable way to affecting our experience of the psychological distance between us. Retaining our awareness of this and bringing our intention to remaining attuned in this way are skills we can model and practice as we develop our compassionate maai.

We hope the above helps get us closer to the concept of maai from an FCMA point of view. We think it's important and relevant as it can affect our sense of safe relating during these difficult times, centrally by attending to our intention to continue to connect to others in circumstances of heightened threat.

Best wishes and stay safe,

Syd and Neil

Compassionate Maai: maintaining physical distance

Greetings all,

In light of the current global societal conditions, we wanted to take a moment to consider how FCMA can help us maintain physical distance but remain socially connected in the face of COVID-19.

The COVID-19 pandemic has seen the unprecedented global step of widespread social distancing measures to stem the spread of Coronavirus, or what has been referred to as 'flattening the curve'. Whilst absolutely necessary to prevent further spread of the virus and the physical suffering it causes, the socio-emotional challenges and consequences this poses to us as an interdependent social species are great. 

Some of the dilemmas we are faced with are: how do we compassionately balance protecting and caring for ourselves and others from increased physical distance? What on earth can the Martial Arts teach us and afford us to these ends?

The concept of Maai from the Martial Arts is particularly pertinent and useful to us all right now. Maai refers to the space between oneself and (an)other, or what can be described as the 'engagement distance'. Breaking this down further, ma refers to the spatiotemporal distance between two (or more) persons, whilst ai refers to the harmony in the encounter between persons (Masciotra et al., 2001). In the martial arts, maai is "...allowing [them] to judge the overall timing and distance necessary for each to carry out his or her intentions’’ (Frederic, 1991, p. 151).

Whilst in combat this may refer to how one manages to be simultaneously (defensively) farthest away whilst (offensively) closest, this equally applies to the following dilemma posed by COVID-19: How do we keep a safe and appropriate physical distance whilst staying (affiliatively) socially engaged, connected and available?

From an FCMA perspective, Compassionate Maai is the harnessing of our radically embodied compassion to adopt a stance that honours and respects the decreed physical distance between each other at present, whilst remaining affiliatively socially engaged. In short, Compassionate Maai dynamically affords us and others physical protection AND socio-emotional protection.

If we can practice this and bring it to everyday encounters, we can enact compassion (and compassionate flow) by protecting ourselves and others through flexible physical distancing balanced with signalling and offering care to each other. We can practice and achieve this through drawing on and adapting FCMA stance and guard work, which allows us to flexibly shift between and blend self-protective and other-focused caring motivations. 

So our message from FCMA is an invitation to practice Compassionate Maai: stay physically safe through appropriate distancing whilst remaining emotionally engaged and close. 

We will explore the ‘how to do' of Compassionate Maai in a future blog post. In the meantime, take care and stay safe,

Neil and Syd

A BIG thank you...

Hi All,

Just to say a big thank you to everyone who attended and participated in our inaugural FCMA workshop ‘Radically Embodied Compassion’ in Derby last Friday. We had an absolute blast, we sincerely hope you enjoyed and found it useful too.

The day was action-packed, moving from the theory and empirical research underpinning the FCMA approach to cultivating and radically embodying compassion via static and dynamic stance work, guards/blocks and partner drills. For us, it was a joy to see people courageously (and playfully!) participating in the exercises and experience radically embodied compassion for themselves, including simulating how this might feel and transfer to therapeutic encounters.

Much gratitude to the Compassionate Mind Foundation (especially Hannah Gilbert) for agreeing to host the workshop and begin to spread the FCMA ‘Way’.

Watch this space for future workshops!

Warmest Wishes,

Neil and Syd

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FCMA workshop countdown - 1 day until Radically Embodied Compassion...

Greetings All,

Just ONE day to go now until the Radically Embodied Compassion experience! We’ve got such an exciting day of martial arts-inspired activities that we hope will help you further develop the compassionate abilities of your Professional and Personal selves.

Our final motivational intention-setting quote and compassionate wisdom comes from the great Bruce Lee:

“Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.”

Bruce Lee

This sets us up nicely for the workshop, where we will be focused on helping each other get out of the mind and into the embodied, to translate what we know into wise courageous action.

Be ready to train fiercely, wisely and playfully!

Neil and Syd

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FCMA workshop countdown - 2 days until Radically Embodied Compassion...

Hey Everyone,

We’re just two days away from an action-packed day of training, where we’ll integrate Martial Arts and Compassion Focused Therapy to experience Radically Embodied Compassion.

In the spirit of integration, Day Four’s (of Five) intention-setting quotes come from the the classic text ‘Aikido and the Dynamic Sphere’ by Adele Westbrook and Oscar Ratti:

“Aikido…is a Discipline of Coordination, a way of strengthening the mind and body, of fusing the individual’s physical and mental powers so that he/she will emerge as a more fully integrated human being.”

and

“It [Aikido] requires an ethical intention. Man/Woman must sincerely desire to defend themselves without hurting others…we must be well on the way towards integration of mind and body, of physical means and ethical motives…whilst helping others develop theirs as well.”

Westbrook & Ratti (1970)

This speaks to the the central premise of the FCMA approach, of training and harmonising our whole selves (body and mind), that is indicative of and culminates in radically embodied compassion. And at the seat of it all is our compassionate motivation and Compassionate Self, guiding and coordinating our engagement and actions…

Wishing you all a harmonious Wednesday!

Neil and Syd

FCMA workshop countdown - 3 days until Radically Embodied Compassion...

Hi All,

Three days to go now until Radically Embodied Compassion is unleashed - we hope our excitement and enthusiasm is palpable!

Continuing our intention-setting countdown, today’s compassionate wisdom comes from renowned and respected Taekwondo author Master Doug Cook, taken from his superb book ‘Traditional Taekwondo: Core Techniques, History, and Philosophy’:

“For decades, traditional Taekwondo has been the perfect medium for cultivating inner strength…the more frequently one trains and becomes proficient in the martial arts, the more one discovers that they have less to defend against. Confidence begins to replace fear.

Doug Cook (2006)

This speaks to the importance of how our own personal training and practice helps develop the flow of compassion, as a vehicle for developing compassionate qualities of courage, quiet confidence, patience and determination that benefits ourselves and others.

See you soon,

Neil and Syd

FCMA workshop countdown - 4 days until Radically Embodied Compassion...

Hey Everyone,

Four days to go now until our ‘Radically Embodied Compassion’ workshop in Derby on Friday 21st February.

As we continue our countdown, here’s Day Two (of Five) of motivational and inspirational quotes to help set (y)our compassionate intentions before we arrive and commence training together.

Our second pearl of wisdom comes from Charles Hackney’s brilliant book, ‘Martial Virtues: Lessons in Wisdom, Courage, and Compassion from the World’s Greatest Warriors’:

Compassionis a central motivational feature in the warrior’s life…a compassionate warrior is one who acts out of a desire to alleviate the suffering of others, or to spare others from the suffering that would result from victimisation.”

and

“Without sufficient courage, the [compassionate] desire to see an end to the suffering of others is not translated into action.”

Charles Hackney (2010)

This resonates with the central philosophy of FCMA and of Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), in seeing compassion as a motive guiding our engagement and action, and at its core lies courage.

Wishing you all a courageous and tranquil Monday,

Neil and Syd

FCMA workshop countdown - 5 days until Radically Embodied Compassion...

Hey all!

It’s now five days to go until our inaugural ‘Radically Embodied Compassion’ workshop, hosted by the wonderful folk at the Compassionate Mind Foundation:

https://www.compassionatemind.co.uk/workshops/radically-embodied-compassion-incorporating-martial-arts-in-cft

As such, here at FCMA we’ve decided to share some motivational and inspirational quotes over the next five days that will help set (y)our compassionate intention before attending the workshop (or indeed future workshops).

Our first quote comes from Roy Kenneth Kamen’s excellent book, ‘Karate: Beneath The Surface’:

“The purpose of studying [Martial Arts] is not to learn how to fight. Fighting is only a means to an end. The purpose is to become compassionate. You must be fearless to be truly compassionate. It is a path to enlightenment.”

Roy Kenneth Kamen (2017)

Many of the ideas Roy explores and extols in his book chime with our philosophy at FCMA, in helping us become as fearlessly compassionate human beings as we can, where we can embody a “I do not fear you. I have compassion for you.” (Kamen, 2017) stance.

Compassionate Best,

Neil and Syd

Ghostly goings on

Hi there,

I've just found this blurry picture of Phil Norman and I, from some Ghost Martial Arts training a few years ago. It made me smile (Phil’s a very funny guy) and think about how varied the martial arts are. As a result, we've so much choice in how and what we train. Moreover, there are some really good instructors out there and Phil’s one of them.

Somewhat uniquely, Phil’s Ghost system focuses on developing dynamic elusive movement first and striking second. It's recognised as being unorthodox, due to the regular boxing structure giving way to more elusive shapes and as a result new and unusual striking angles which are difficult to counter. It really is something!

It's a great workout and aims to stay within contact range, while also staying safe.

As such, it's very FCMA friendly.

Do look into this is you're curious (https://philnormanmartialarts.com/ghost/) and of course approach Neil and I for more on the various styles and systems that we've sampled as part of FCMA.

Train wisely.

Syd

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Working with Warriors

Hi,

I'm currently reading Dennis Martin's book Working with Warriors. It's a true life account of his early years working the doors of various nightclubs in Liverpool with fellow martial artists Terry O'Neil and Gary Spiers.

It's a no punches pulled account of real-time violent encounters from the perspective of Traditional Karate men of their time.

It focuses on the adaptation of formal drills and technique to fit the street, with the confines of limited space to move, multiple opponents and limited or no preparation time.

It's great to have such material to read and reflect on. Dennis went on to become a leading figure in the bodyguard world and still publishes and teaches to this day.

The fierceness and courage displayed by these men, while also retaining a sense of personal honour and martial code makes for a good blend of no-nonsense martial spirit and context.

Its made me think alot about how we best fit what we do in FCMA to our surroundings, be they environmental, social or interpersonal (in the case of therapy).

Best wishes and here's to a safe, fierce and compassionate 2020!

Syd

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